"If you dont stand for something you will fall for anything"
Wednesday, 17 September 2008
Bond Girl is still single. Don't worry this is good news. Black 007 is back and he and I discussed our relationship at length. I am a person who can not be rushed nor pushed into something as big as a relationship without laying the ground work first. He is a man who knows what he wants from the beginning and works hard to lay out and keep his goals. So after talking so much this week (yes just talk bloggers, I was tempted, he was VERY tempted but we have held off for now)we came to the decision to be friends for a little while. We have been out of each others daily lives for awhile now and need to get back into the routine of being friends..... for now at least. It is very tempting at the moment especially because he has moved out of his hotel and is staying in my spare room while I help with apartment hunting.
As for work...I quit. I called Ms DWP's bluff and I handed in my resignation giving her a full months notice of my departure. She tried to give me back the job I was demoted from, then tried to give me the head position. I had to decline bloggers because I could see that this woman only worked well by having a hold over her employees. The constant threat of redundancy, the constant feeling of being close to a breakdown due to the work load, the constant humiliation of public dressing downs via her cutting remarks or lectures was how she controlled everyone in that office. Funnily enough City Girl and Black 007 gave me the same good advice
If you don't stand for something you will fall for anything.
After cleaning my house for 4 hours and hiding any sign of Black 007 which included burning incense to clear any male scent that might be lingering I then had to do the most difficult thing. Tell my mother. When I told my her of my decision she was not impressed. First she looked up at the ceiling of my apartment with an annoyed look on her face as if she was asking God why he had given her me, why not a simple child with simple issues? Then she clicked her tongue and said casually "you know joblessness is a disease that has an expensive cure?...I hope you are thinking with your wallet and not your heart". It was hard not to laugh but you know African mothers if you laugh when there is no joke...you might as well slap yourself and save her the trouble. I tried to reassure and promise her that I had enough of my savings to last me 6 months of joblessness during which time I would not succumb to prostitution, stripping or god forbid working at KFC. (How she equates or puts prostitution and working at KFC as part of the worst things I could do is just funny but that's my mother) As she was leaving she said "I hope the man living here is paying rent, I did not raise my child to be a charity haven. Make sure you clean your lounge suite as I can smell his cologne. In fact ask him what it is, it smells nice. Maybe your father might like it eh?"..... Bloggers I was speechless....still am... Ah well the powers of an African mother....until next time bloggers
17 September 2008 at 08:21
wow your mum is hard core i must say..how did she know you were harbouring a man in ur house..lol
all the best as u job hunt o...i can imagine it is not easy..
hmm so mr bond is at yours..anyway i am glad u two have talked about things...
17 September 2008 at 08:34
second!!!!yay!!!
Gurl, ur mom's like mine...she can smell a man in the house even after you putting incense...African mothers..classics!!And it was funny who she said she hope you were thinking with wallet and not ur heart..lol...
I hope all goes well for you in your future plans hon...you can do it if you believe in it!!Well done to you for taking the first step!!
Now you and Mr Bond...all i saw was 'for now'...lmao...heey u know me is a naughty one..lol..so you two be good friends..FOR NOW!!and then hmmmmm....xoxo
17 September 2008 at 08:35
oops meant to say funny how not funny who...forgive me i'm not feeling well (yes i will milk on that on as long as i can..lol)
17 September 2008 at 08:59
Wow, it´s a tough situation you got there but you handled it gracefully... Your mom she reminds us all of our own moms I guess that´s why we love her attitude and you for telling us about her....
Jobless well I say there are no good jobs out there but you need to pay the bills
Good luck with your job seeking..
17 September 2008 at 10:41
Your mom is sharp oh...
But you tried...to hand in that resignation letter without looking back, you tried. Most times, bosses will promise heaven and earth but don't go back...they will have their eyes on you...
All the best as you get something better...probably to learn more about yourself...
17 September 2008 at 15:51
i guess takin it slow is a good step..but damn, hes stayin in ur spare room??? good luck sweetie!
wow..as long as u did what u felt was right..handin in ur resignation, i mean....i hope u get the job u deserve soon enough!
lol @ ur mum
17 September 2008 at 20:49
never hide anything from them..they av these powers (i think) that they use to detect stuff...lol!
glad u declined DWP's offer! i do hope u find sumtin better!
18 September 2008 at 00:05
@ aloted she has special powers, nothing can really be hidden!
@ shonavixen I knew you would pick it up... but truly we are friends for now...we will see what happens..
@ emilia thanks girl, go to have faith that a job is around the corner
@ rita I really did try, I have worked there for so long it was time to make a stand
@ buttercup... don't worry babe its not going to affect me if he stays with me for a bit
@ toluwa thanks girl, I am glad I declined her offer too because it was getting too much!
18 September 2008 at 07:20
"It was hard not to laugh but you know African mothers if you laugh when there is no joke...you might as well slap yourself and save her the trouble."
Lmao
African mothers
One of a kind
You are lucky, had it been my mother she would have demanded an appointment with 007 and gave him a thorough interview probably with a lie ditector test and probably ask for a urine sample...my mother her skills would be best put to use on CIS Africa (if there was such a show.)
19 September 2008 at 05:25
Lol! Your mother is good. That was very sharp of her. Anyway im glad you feel you made the decision to quit a job. It terrible to be enslaved to someone. As for bond 007, all the best with you guys. Maybe you should stay friends and not spoil a good thing!lol!
19 September 2008 at 10:53
Just talking??? You are a stronger girl than I’ll ever be, my formula is …single + ex=SHAG!!!
Lmao…your mum decoded the man had been there after 4 hours of cleaning??? Dannng I love her…
20 September 2008 at 23:24
daaaaamn. touche to your mom. Smelling the scent of cologne, so impressive. Even I can't do that if its right infront of my face. Motherly intuition? And as for the job hunting, everything will eventually fall into place, even though the job huntingness is crap. Good luck though with it.
22 September 2008 at 10:17
mmmm..madd..ur mom sounds hilarious but then difficult at the same time..i feel u mehn....im still trying to piece ur posts together..lol
27 September 2008 at 08:40
Glad you thought of your dignity vs wallet. I'm not into counter offers. If you were worth all that, why not offer it before you threaten to leave?
BTW, I love your blog ladies!
Now, how do you manage to stay in the same house with a guy you're into? That must take some serious self control. wow!
7 October 2008 at 15:19
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7 October 2008 at 15:21
ur mum is cool. mine would have freaked out if she knew i was living with a boy... i only got away with it in first year cos i was in halls and even then she was asking y i dint choose an all girls hall...
Good luck with the job hunt hun!!