Sex with an Ex  

Thursday, 29 January 2009

I hate Thursdays....... Ok, i hate every week day i have to come to work even though i love my job, is that weird???????? I got in to work early today because it's freaking awards season in hollywood and thats our busiest times even though i never get to go to the stupid awards........ gosh i work my big ass off and my boss cant even slip me a ticket to the Grammys or something... Wishes!!!!!
Anyway in retaliation, its 10:40am and im going to use company time to blog......
I have been a follower of sex with an ex and i can boldly tell you it has not brought me any good. So im going to lay it down for anybody who is in such situation, DESIST!!! I have read many articles and talked about it with my friends. I hope after you read the extract below, you will learn that the only bad thing besides being dumped is to have sex with your ex

Sex with the ex is a topic that we could discuss for ages. We know that it’s destructive, and yet we imbibe in it anyway. It’s a train wreck waiting to happen and yet we can’t help ourselves. You feel that you are mature, and you can handle post relationship sex. You promise yourself that you won’t get all caught up and get your emotions entangled in it, even though you know that you will anyway.For some, sex with the ex is mainly used to hold on to him in a vain attempt that he might come to his senses and decide to work on the relationship versus bailing out. We do this to try and salvage the relationship, or what little is left of it. You have to keep in mind that using sex to control and have ties to him is kind of like a small bandaid over a huge gash. The bandaid won’t hold, and blood will pour out anyway. Conversely, the sex isn’t going to be enough to hold together a failing/failed relationship. It is human nature to want to hang on, and I don’t blame you, but you have to learn to let go. That is the only way you can ever move on.Perhaps you two have awesome chemistry, and he is the best lover you have ever had. That doesn’t mean however, that he is going to be the best lover you will EVER have. Stop limiting yourself. You just have to be willing, ready and able in your next relationship/fling to unleash your inner vixen. It’s all uphill from there! By staying with him, and having sex with him, you are actually limiting your horizons and your potential. It’s already been established that he is a loser…so why don’t you just try and move on to bigger and better things instead of hanging around the biggest loser?

You might have just fallen into becoming his booty call as a natural transition. You acknowledge that the relationship is dunzo, but there is no one else to have sex with, and you are petrified of a dry spell. He already knows your likes and dislikes and you don’t want to go through the trouble of re-training another dick guy. Get. Over. It. Life is not all about sex. A few weeks without getting any wouldn’t kill you. However, if you feel that it will, my suggestion is to head to your nearest XXX store and invest in the Rabbit (i love me the rabbits) and good batteries. Although not a permanent solution, it will help you over the hump, and keep you from falling into bed with him.

You might be from the school of thought that any contact with him is better than no contact at all. But the contact you are having with him could wind up hurting you a lot more than if you had just made a clean break. For starters, the sex isn’t the same, and he is still a free agent. Do you want him to get his way, have his cake and eat it too? If he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, then he doesn’t deserve you…in any capacity. Not as a friend, and definitely not as a booty call. Capishe?

Stop being a pansy and make a clean break. Stop taking his calls, his text messages and his idiotic attempts to get back in your good graces. You are done, over, kaput ~ recognize it and move on. Although it’s hard, you have to associate him for the time being as your enemy, and cut him off completely. That way, you can move through the stages of loss and achieve closure

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21 comments: to “ Sex with an Ex

  • Kabi-Osi Edumare
    29 January 2009 at 10:50  

    1st...Yay brb

  • Kabi-Osi Edumare
    29 January 2009 at 11:08  

    Preach it sista...I am guilty of this crime...lol no joke
    Thinking that would make things work but for where...things end up getting worse.

    You dont deserve the crumbs of his time and his emotions.You deserve the best

  • bumight
    29 January 2009 at 11:14  

    guilty as charged!...but it worked fo me.

  • seamstress
    29 January 2009 at 11:21  

    Ohh how i wished i was innocent...but i learnt my lesson, the hard way. Now, i have iron pants when any of the ex's are in the vicinity. You can never be too careful!

    Nice blog xx

  • ShonaVixen
    29 January 2009 at 11:35  

    Once you're an ex to me the 's' is dropped so no sex, they say old wood catches fire quicker but nah..I don't come from school of thought..I'll stay in my dry season rather be sexing the ex because come tomorrow he's still going to be my ex...I've been tempted but talked myself out of it and aint BUMIGHT everywhere today..lol..

  • ~Sirius~
    29 January 2009 at 11:39  

    Hey!!! Not fair.came to drag you girls out of your hiding place and I see a post with 5 COMMENTS!!!!!!
    Not fair!........off to read post.

  • ~Sirius~
    29 January 2009 at 12:01  

    Shona and I are together on this one.
    I Drop the "S" before I exit....that way it's easier to stay away from it entirely.

    PS:I'd hate to think a man will decide to come back to me because of my bedroom skills -(which are Hwat! by the way- Tut Tut.LOL)

    If he wants me, he should be with me because of who I am, and not because of what I can do in the sheets.

    @ Bumight......taking risks ey?

  • Danny Bagucci
    29 January 2009 at 12:32  

    That's a truck load of commonsense you spilled out there... Good stuff...

  • MissLove
    29 January 2009 at 12:52  

    hmm why im i late!!! :(

  • MissLove
    29 January 2009 at 12:58  

    my friend is so doing this! and i can only shut up about it! it annoys me!!! because all of the reasons you have stated! how belittling!

  • Nefertiti
    29 January 2009 at 13:47  

    Yep. That excerpt couldn't have said it berra.

    I dunno tho. Sometimes I think u can ruff it. That is if u don't go catching feelings all over again.

    Bumight, are u saying what I think u're saying? omo buruku!

  • Temite
    29 January 2009 at 15:26  

    You know I agree with you. Once I move on, we are done. You are a evil bastard that I cant even stand to talk to. NEVER. God forbid bad things. There are so many Men out there for me so...

  • Just...Toluwa
    30 January 2009 at 10:01  

    guilty...i think all women need salvation from their hormones!

  • Mista Jaycee
    30 January 2009 at 10:59  

    You gon have em hunting wabbits? -)
    Mista Jaycee

  • Buttercup
    30 January 2009 at 12:19  

    I thank God i havent fallen prey to this...

  • Buttercup
    30 January 2009 at 12:19  

    I thank God i havent fallen prey to this...

  • Miss Definitely Maybe
    30 January 2009 at 17:17  

    True
    couldnt have said it better
    better have a casual relationship with someone new than an ex

  • deola
    1 February 2009 at 12:26  

    Sex with EX is a danger zone. period!

  • Ovay West
    2 February 2009 at 21:06  

    have i? i dunno, its something i must have thought about... maybe recently, but for revenge (hehe) not to hold on to his tilapia ass!!
    actually i have, it wasn't sex. we just made out. he said he would leave her for me, then afterward, he said why can't you share? emi!!! ori e ko da!!! i am still showing him pepper now... warri no dey carry last

  • FFF
    7 February 2009 at 11:42  

    it's called 'okafor's law' & it's d man who wins n d end. chicks should realise this

  • Anonymous
    28 January 2013 at 03:08  

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